Mirror, Mirror
Want to win the heart of a mermaid? Then, “Never use hooks on dry land” ~ HST… Use a shiny, red apple instead.
I guess the best way to win me over is to be consistent and persistent.
Several years ago, I took an astrology class from the University of Washington. What I learned from taking that class has not only helped me to better understand myself and how I react to the world around me but also to help others understand themselves better.
I was at a party recently and ended up doing astrological readings for everyone else there. I enjoy doing these readings in order to help others. Sometimes all we need is for someone else to say exactly what we already know but because someone else said it, it reinforces what we know about ourselves and creates a more sound understanding. Whenever I do a reading for someone, I keep their information confidential and I never return to it unless they bring it up or ask me more questions. There are often surprising things revealed about a person ~ something they knew but didn’t really want others to know. It never ceases to amaze me when this information is confirmed by the person I’m doing the reading for. What does amaze me is that it really is “written in the stars” at the exact time they were born on this Earth.
Readings can also reveal things about relationships. It could be your relationship with your friends, siblings, your parents, your significant other, or authority figures.
I find that the more we know and understand about ourselves and how we cope with others and the world around us, the more we are better able to handle stress when it comes along. We know how we should and for the most part, how we will react to circumstances, including people.
It’s like holding up a universal mirror for ourselves to look into. When we look deeper, we understand deeper, if that makes sense.
So, here’s some more truth about me, as a Virgo (the foundation upon which my personality grows)… but remember, I’m a Gemini-rising so that’s my true personality.
Virgo’s sensual needs are often deep and powerful. Their sensitivity and delicacy make them aware of another person’s needs in a very acute way which hastier signs don’t notice. But Virgos can take a long time to really fall in love. They’re not easily fooled by a pretty face or a beautiful body. They think too much and know too much.
The Virgo needs to communicate, and work is terribly important. Virgos frequently identify with their jobs and validate themselves according to how well they fulfill their own expectations. If you don’t share their interest in work, or show a willingness to talk about the things that are important to them, Virgos can get pretty bored with even the most sexually exciting partner. Emotion and sexuality aren’t enough to hold a Virgo’s heart. There has to be a meeting of minds.
Virgos like instruction manuals. They’ll try anything if it’s explained in clear, easy-to-understand steps. Take the instructions away and they often panic. They always read the handbook first, and this makes them terrifyingly competent in almost any sphere of life they choose to explore.
Unfortunately there aren’t any instruction manuals for how to deal with love and passion. It’s not surprising that so many Virgos are terrified of what they perceive as the dangerous lunacy of falling in love. You’ll find many apparently cool and unromantic Virgos, sexually skilled but emotionally withdrawn, who tell you that doing it every night is good for you, but who won’t ever utter that scary four-letter word beginning with “L”.
Wild moonlit love-at-first-sight encounters aren’t Virgo’s style. They observe the world too much to take such encounters seriously. And they don’t like gambling. Gambling with instantaneous passion can be hurtful and disillusioning. Some Virgos go cold and shut out anyone to whom they’re too attracted, because they mistrust anything sudden, uncontrollable or unexplainable.
Of course, you’ll sometimes find a really wild Virgo who seems to break the mould. But look closely. You’ll usually find that their heart hasn’t really been touched. Love, for Virgo, is something that takes time, knowledge, and careful nurturing. In the end, they’ll choose the reliable over the flamboyant.
Virgos are realists. You can see this in their tastes, their furnishings and their working life. The useful, the safe, the knowable, things of quality, are always preferable to the gaudy, the temporarily fashionable, the unreliable, the “cheap and cheerful”. It can be a terrible bore or, tempered with a little humor and a sense of fun, it can give a quality of understanding, warmth and wisdom which is powerfully magnetic and highly attractive. The operative word here is “fun”. The Virgo may need your help in learning the word.
Earthbound Virgos often starve themselves of sheer joy in life. They want it badly, but they’re afraid they’ll have to pay too high a price for it. Virgo people can often be seen with long lists of what must be done each day. Play is not included on the list. Virgos often choose a partner who embodies all the frivolity, unpredictability and “selfishness” (this is a favorite Virgo word) they won’t allow themselves.
If you’re the dashing, unreliable fiery type who seems to have a secret pact with the gods and actually gambles with life rather than displaying due caution, you’re likely to be a magnet for a Virgo. That doesn’t mean it’s a union made in heaven. Either the Virgo loosens up and reveals that wonderfully poetic secret soul – in which case you’re in for a delightful future together – or else she tries to play Pygmalion and chips away at you to get you to become more “mature”. Then comes the final scenario of you spitting fire like a dragon and booking a solo flight because you’re fed up with always being nagged and criticized.
Relationships are rarely smooth and easy for Virgo, unless they play terribly safe and find themselves another earthy type who fits into that orderly Virgoan universe. But then, sadly, they’re always a bit bored, and life’s a little dreary, and they feel they’ve somehow missed the boat. The Virgo partner can be the gentlest, kindest, cleverest and most genuinely helpful of mates. And yes, she can be passionate too. All she has to do is learn, every now and then, to be a child, and recognize that what is useful is not always mutually exclusive of what is alive and meaningful and full of joy.
If you’re looking for the perfect secretary/housekeeper, you should probably go and find yourself some other sign. The main gift of the Virgo woman is her intelligence, not her tidiness. If you find the compulsive housebound type of Virgo who dusts three times a day, then you’re courting trouble, because you’ve got yourself a Virgo who uses rituals to hide from some pretty explosive emotions.
There are plenty of Virgo women who take an interest in their homes and like a beautiful, orderly environment. But what really matters to her is good taste, subtlety and understanding, and she has a keen wit about people and life. There are catches, of course. The Virgo woman can be terrifyingly self-contained, and it’s often difficult for her to be “married” in the deeper sense of the word. There’s a quality about the Virgo woman which is psychologically untouchable, and if you try to invade that private, secret self you’re likely to get the same reaction as if you tried physical assault.
Virgo women aren’t the clinging, needy type. More often they’re Amazons who show a frightening degree of capability and efficiency, either on a physical level or a mental one – and sometimes on both. Bad luck if you want to be the Sun around whom a happily reflecting Moon-partner orbits.The Virgo woman has her own ideas and opinions, and a profound need to communicate them. Some Virgo women talk so much that it can make you cover your ears and begin screaming just to make the sound stop. It may not be the famous Virgo criticism, either. It may be all about the latest book she’s read, or the problem she had to solve in her programming work, or the person she’s lately been taking apart and analyzing psychologically.
If you’re after the beautiful, silent type, forget it. Virgo women also have an infuriating propensity to question your knowledge. Tell her something and she’ll ask for the source, complete with footnotes. Virgos don’t really believe anyone else until the definitive reference work becomes available. It’s hard to be more knowledgeable than a Virgo, because they soak up knowledge like a sponge soaks up water. This can do wonders for your intellectual scope and horrors for your ego.
Some Virgo women are Earth-mothers, and the sign’s sensitivity expresses itself through a love of nature and a healing and skillful touch with all crafts. And that need to be useful attracts many Virgos into the helping professions, from nursing to dietetics to psychology and psychiatry to alternative healing of all kinds.
Virgo’s real warmth and sparkle take time to emerge from behind the apparent coolness and detachment. It’s hard for the Virgo woman to be spontaneous. Often she can only show love by doing practical things for her loved ones. Intense emotions are frightening, and can only be expressed in an atmosphere of trust. Break that trust and you’ll get the sarcastic, cutting edge of the Virgo tongue, which can be lethal because she’s been observing with minute care all the weaknesses that you were certain no one noticed. Virgo women have a disconcerting habit of spotting the carefully hidden frayed cuff and the nervous twitch you thought you were controlling. They observe minutiae because the vast spectrum of life is best reflected in the small. Virgos take pride in their skills and want respect for their accomplishments.
This woman radiates a mysterious aloofness which may sound like, “Keep Out!” but really means, “Welcome, but respect my separateness.” The Virgo woman makes an art of being her own person. She won’t adore you blindly. More likely she’ll love you for your imperfections, because she’s a compassionate realist and likes feeling useful and needed. This can terrify you into running very quickly in the opposite direction (if your vanity matters that much to you). Or it can be a wonderfully cooling and inspiring experience to actually be your ordinary human self.
~ Me ~
Sia “I’m In Here“
